Most of us here have a genuine affection for the Duggars, a few of us don't, so this post will be of particular delight, but in any case, we're going to switch places with the Duggars and instead of letting them advise us, we're going to advise them. From reading the comments on different blog posts, even the most devoted of fans have certain things about them that we wish they would change. I'm not talking about their faith, their convictions, their deep moral fiber. We can't change their religious convictions, their beliefs in home-schooling, their beliefs in birth control, or desire to see their children court (even though they've said they can date if they want to.) But there are things in their day to day lives, little quirks that we've all mentioned here and there that it's time to put in one place, so let's do it now! Here's your chance to add your 2 cents!
Your Food Budget: My big Duggar advice bits have to do with their shopping budget. I know they have more to spend and probably don't need to be as frugal as they once did, but frankly, they still do have children in nappies that won't be 18 for....18 more years, so saving money on food is always a good idea. I wish they would stop buying those small cans of beans and start soaking beans in their crockpots that they are so in love with and cooking them the next day. They would save soooo much money and it wouldn't be any more work than opening up 16 cans (I've read the recipes, they're opening up way more cans than they need to!) I also would love to share with them my recipe for pizza dough--the amount they spend on frozen pizzas they could make a ton of home made pizzas with their commercial kitchen with very little work, especially with all that great equipment--I do it by hand and it's not that big a deal! Some argue that gardening wouldn't save them any money, but done right, and with proper canning and freezing, they'd save a fortune! If they learned to raise their own animals and slaughter they'd probably save some money there too. Or they could be buying in bulk from a butcher--sides of beef or pork--if they aren't already why aren't they sharing the news--they tell us other ways of saving money?
The Kids' Futures: During one of the 1 hour specials, each child was introduced, along with what they wanted to be when they grew up. Since everyone in Duggarland still thinks that the grownup teens still want to be what they wanted to be when they were little kids, it might be nice to set the record straight and fill all the fans in and tell us what the kids want to be now, if anything. Do they still want to be chefs, beauticians, midwives, pilots, missionaries, nurses, firemen, policemen, etc. Or have they changed their minds, as kids often do!
Your TLC Paycheck: We totally get that this is ABSOLUTELY none of our business, but since none of us will shut the heck up about it, clue us in on what kind of green you're getting from TLC and where it's going. Or at least insinuate what is going on with TLC. Is it a family thing? Is each Duggar paid individually? Do the kids over 18 get to do whatever they want with a paycheck? Ok I admit this question goes far out of bounds of politeness, but Duggarphiles really want to know and it bugs us that we don't.
Impartial Editing: While we love you, you may notice you get some bad press. Unfortunately Michelle gets called some very rude names--bad mother being the nicest of them. And most of us personally think it has to do with poor editing choices. We're all mothers and we know she does more than her fair share of the work in that home--unfortunately the camera doesn't seem to show any of it. Especially this season all we've seen is her coming and going to the hospital, or hooked up to a milking machine, yet we all know she's doing far more than that. It would be nice to see some of it to prove to the world that she still is a mother to the rest of her children--afterall it IS reality TV is it not? I'm also of the opinion that Josh must have ticked off someone on the TLC editing staff, maybe because he's getting paid as a video/audio guy, because they constantly show him in bed just waking up, giving everyone the impression that he's a lazy, no good, do-nothing.
TELL US: We understand that there are things that happen in your lives that we will never get to see and you don't want us to really see. We know the kids have friends and lives outside the show, but you can just mention that and let it go. Because NOT saying that leads your detractors to believe that you're keeping your kids trapped at home and that your raising them in some kind of cult. We all know that's not true, that you're trying to preserve some kind of private life for them that's seperate from the show, but just mention it---"the girls were off with their friends last weekend." It's not something you'd film, not people we'd see, but it's something we'd know. And it would shut up those nuts who think YOU are nuts. We also know that there are things you do film....around. For instance you went to church with the Bates but the sanctuary was practically empty. That smacked of people not wanting to be filmed. Either don't film it, or mention it, because it looked really really bizarre and almost WORSE than not showing it at all. Some things need more explanations than you're giving. Oh, and we'd really like some explanations about things like Josh's house--was it a gift or did he buy it? Does he rent or own his car lot space? What happened to all the cats you've had over the years--that's a lot of cats in such a short time?
DON'T TELL US: On the other hand, some things we don't need to know. Those of us that have been watching since the first 1 hour special understand that you've had cameras in your face for years now and you probably don't remember they are there anymore. We also have gotten to know your personalities a little bit and know which of you speak without thinking sometimes. Just remember, sometimes you can keep certain things to yourselves. Conception dates being one of them. While it didn't bother me, I got it, you weren't talking to us, you were talking to your son and his wife, remember that the cameras ARE following you and remember up above---impartial editing.
Above all, we love you and look forward to the pleasure of sharing your lives as long as you continue to allow us to glimpse into your world.