Speaking of kicking someone while she's down. It's troubling to read so many negative posts about a woman I have so much respect for. And this time for her continued lack of hands-on parenting. It's as if people are forgetting that just a few months ago she went through emergency surgery for not only a c-section but her gallbladder. There is a recovery period for both of those surgeries and both of those combined mean you can't always lift and carry small children around, even though you want to.
I have noticed in recent episodes that during the interviews Michelle looks great, but in the regular action shots she doesn't look herself. She seems tired and pale. I think she's very tired and probably stressed. I'm worried about her and hope her health is good. I've also noticed that Jim Bob is definately picking up his fair share of the childcare, which is fabulous. This family is pulling together so wonderfully throughout this trying time. I've also noticed the boys are doing more than their fair share than usual, which should give the anti-Duggars something to shush over. This really is a family pulling together not pulling apart.
Why am I bringing this subject up? Well I've had a c-section and the recovery wasn't the most pleasant experience of my life. I was lucky on one hand, being that my daughter was in the NICU (lucky you ask?) Well, I didn't have to be responsible for her day to day care so I had time to recover without having to care for a newborn at the same time.
Coming up in 3 days I will be having my gallbladder removed--meaning I won't be lifting my 3 year old for at least a week, maybe more, depending on how the surgery goes. I can't imagine what it would be like combining those two operations at once--both of them in emergency situations. Frankly I think she's handling it far better than I ever could. I'm dreading my upcoming surgery so much that I'm having my parents come down to care for us because I'm so sure I won't be able to care for my toddler while my husband is at work.
It's been the same way around here. Normally the household issues are my issues, but since my gallbladder has taken over my life, my husband has really taken up for me. It's been amazing and quite stunning really. Wow! Now that's love when you find the floor vacuumed for you and he understands that the dusting hasn't been done.
That's what families do when the going gets tough, they pull together. They also make time for some fun. Last weekend we went to a picnic in the mountains just like the Duggars went to a trip to the mountains. Sometimes when you need to get rid of stress you need to get out of your element and see some new scenery and get a new perspective. Sometimes you have to spend some time with other people (it was a family reunion of my husband's boss) to forget your worries and problems (upcoming surgery) and watch your daughter play with the other kids and run in the races and win toys as she crosses the finish line. (No they didn't eat bugs.) Families are amazing things--they live, they grow, they are constantly moving, and the right one will never let you fall.